Phoebe had oral surgery on Monday. SURGERY. I was a nervous wreck, but I buried that way down deep, so that my little girl wouldn’t panic. She looks to me for all her information on how to react, how to act, etc. I am her world. So, I put on a happy face and drove her down to the hospital at 5:30 am. I hid every morsel of food in this house the night before and turned off the water, locked cabinets and slept in the living room- so that she wouldn’t eat or drink anything after midnight.
We arrived at Hurley Hospital at 6:10 am. Phoebe’s dad drove in right behind us. On this day, her dad and I put autism aside. We put divorce aside. We were Phoebe’s parents and we were there for her. I kept my game face on through the IV placement (even though I looked away), and I even kept it together when she was in pre-op. Once the nurse came to get her and she turned the corner for the operating room – I let loose. I sobbed. My ex-husband put an arm around my shoulder and comforted me. We put autism and divorce aside, and sat together for 3 hours while they worked on Phoebe’s mouth. We talked, and laughed, played games on the smart phones, and tried to keep each other occupied. At one point, he said if I didn’t stop tapping my foot he was going to sit on the other side of the room. That got a smile.
Finally, Phoebe was awake and in recovery. When they came out- they said she was asking for….MOM. I smiled and he chuckled. I got to her, and she was sleepy and grumpy, but doing well. Her first words were…”can we go home now?” I said…”pretty soon.” Then she said. “I want dad now.” Then I chuckled.
Once in the recovery room- Phoebe did great and got to leave pretty quickly. She was ready to go. I got the car, and her dad brought her in a wheelchair. She got in, and with a few short good-byes we left. Before we headed out, her dad and I just looked at each other and nodded. We put divorce aside. (For once)
Phoebe ASD World 