Lately, in our autism house, we live with Captain Obvious. At home, anxiety is high as big changes are happening with our family dynamic. Phoebe has become “Captain Obvious.” While driving, Phoebe states anything and everything she sees. For example, “That tree is green”, “That car has big tires.” Also, “You need to put on your turn signal.” I am not sure if this is a way of controlling her environment to make her anxiety less, or just because she wants to state the obvious. Either way, it’s all new to me.

I am used to her looking at me for social cues, but this is different. These aren’t things I would normally say to her, so is this progress? Should I look at this like she’s aware of new things? I am not sure, but I find it highly annoying. I know that sounds harsh, but I am also anxious with changes, and this new development has me a little on edge. The chatter is CONSTANT. Not only do I have a shadow, but now I have a talking shadow.

In addition, she has tons of anxiety. Brendan is off to college soon, and Phoebe can’t function if he’s out with friends, downstairs playing xbox, or working. She literally can’t. She is anxious about where he is and what he is doing. She is always questioning when he will be home, who he is with and what is happening. It’s trying on a person. I have been doing this for a long time, and I’m tired. (Let’s not even get in to the fact I can’t find anyone to be a caregiver to her). Dealing with someone else’s anxiety is exhausting. (REALLY EXHAUSTING) It truly is. I can’t even imagine what it will be like when he is isn’t living in this house.

There have been some big strides this summer too. Phoebe attended a respite camp for 2 days, and didn’t take any technology with her. She did very well, and the camp staff seemed to have no troubles with her. This is big! I got a short break, and was so excited she did well. This helps me set my mind at ease that Adult Foster Care will work for her, when we find the right house.

In the meantime, I will continue to look for the right house for her, and deal with her anxiety, and Captain Obviousness. Hoping to find something soon, so I can take time for myself and begin to live.